Done with Diets?

I’m sorry to say it, but I don’t have another out-of-this-world recipe to share with you today.

Austin had to work late last night, so instead of creating an elaborate meal for the two of us, I had a simple dinner of roasted veggies and finished reading a book that I’ve been working on for the past week. It was a doozy.

Portia de Rossi’s memoir, Unbearable Lightness.

I was a bit torn about reading this book– as I wasn’t sure how reading a detailed account of anorexia and bulimia might affect me. I have heard that reading accounts of disordered eating can be a trigger for people who have suffered from disordered eating themselves. However, I figured this was a drastic case and didn’t think I would really be able to relate to Portia’s previous behavior at all. And once I picked this book up, I could hardly put it down! Portia is impressively honest and open, and watching her progression from a “healthy dieter” to a “disordered eater” is incredibly realistic.

In fact, a few passages in her book really hit home for me.

“I finally understood that by being on a perpetual diet, I had practiced a “disordered” form of eating my whole life. I restricted when I was hungry and in need of nutrition and binged when I was so grotesquely full I couldn’t be comfortable in any position buy lying down. Diets that tell people what to eat or when to eat are the practices in between. And dieting, I discovered, was another form of disordered eating, just as anorexia and bulimia similarly disrupt the natural order of eating. “Ordered” eating is the practice of eating when you are hungry and ceasing to eat when your brain sends the signal that your stomach is full. “Ordered” eating is about eating for enjoyment, for health, and to sustain life. “Ordered” eating is about not restricting certain kinds of foods because they are “bad.” Obsessing about what and when to eat is not normal, natural, and orderly. Thinking about food to the point of obsession, and ignoring your body’s signals is a disorder.” -Unbearable Lightness, pg. 295

I don’t know about you, but I find it incredibly frustrating that dieting has become such a regular practice in our society.

It seems that being on a diet, and feeling dis-satisfied with your figure, is becoming “the norm.”  Just think about how many diet books are released every year! (I certainly have collected quite the diet library, myself!) And don’t get me started on all the health and fitness articles published each month–> all filled with “get slim quick” plans, guaranteed to finally give you the body of your dreams. But do any of these diets really work in the long run?

All I had done throughout my life was diet and gain the weight back. Therefore, the only conclusion I could make was that diets don’t work… I decided that I would never diet again.

The fact that I stopped labeling food as “good” and “bad” made me just see it all as food. There was no bad food. There were just bad eating practices. I began eating every single thing I wanted when I wanted it, without guilt, without remorse, without feeling anything other than happy about the taste of the food I had chosen to eat. Initially, I gained a little weight. But over time, I found that I didn’t want ice cream every day. Not because of fear of gaining weight, but because it was too cold, or too sweet for my taste buds after a salty pasta. I stopped overeating. I stopped thinking about food. I ate exactly what I wanted, when I wanted it, without any feelings of guilt or being “good” or bad.”

Within two months, I was maintaining my weight easily… I was one of those “lucky” people who could eat whatever they wanted and never gain weight. I stopped weighing myself. I simply didn’t care about weight anymore because it was always the same, always a comfortable, good weight for my body, and I stopped thinking about food because every single food item was available to me at any moment of the day. There was nothing left to think about.” -Unbearable Lightness pg. 296-297

To me, Portia’s new mentality still seems like a Utopian dream. The idea that I could really eat whatever I want, whenever I want– and not blow up to the size of a balloon? Craziness!

But it might just be crazy enough to work.

“To say that you can stay at your natural body weight and be healthy by eating what you want and not working out sounds extremely controversial, and yet people have lived this way for hundreds of years. It seems to me that it’s only since 1970 that the concept of diet and exercise has existed in the way it does now, which is based on exertion and restriction being the key to weight loss, and yet since then, we have seen an increase in obesity in countries that have adopted it. (These are also the countries where the fast-food industry boomed during that time.) The diet industry is making a lot of money selling us fad diets, nonfat foods full of chemicals, gym memberships, and pills while we lose a little of our self-esteem every time we fail another diet or neglect to use the gym membership we could barely afford. Restriction generates yearning. You want what you can’t have. There are many ways to explain why the pendulum swing occurs and why restriction almost always leads to binging… All people who live their lives on a diet are suffering.” -Unbearable Lightness, pg. 302

That’s not to say that if you’ve successfully lost weight on a diet, or are currently enjoying a “lifestyle change” that you’ve made, that you are necessarily suffering. I definitely don’t mean to offend anyone with this post! I’ve had successful, happy bouts of enjoying a healthy, fulfilling diet– without feeling restricted– myself. But I do think it’s more of a rarity. And I can speak from experience that the second I start thinking of losing weight, be it for an upcoming event, or just to fit into a smaller pair of jeans, thoughts of binging are soon to follow. And restriction, followed by binging, is probably the reason why only 5% of people who lose weight can actually keep it off!

Food for thought, eh?

Reader Feedback: What do you think about NOT dieting? Are you able to let yourself eat whatever you want with no guilt? If not, are you willing to try? 

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I think we people in western world have lost balance about food.
Look at the centenarians(the only examples of what is actually right) around the world. None of them is following a specific or restrictive diet. They just have a healthy attitude towards food. Which means eat when you are hungry, never get full and fill your everyday with things that make you happy.

Baking 'n' Books

This is a great post. I wanted to read that book but was unsure as I’ve read my fair share of that stuff in the past.

But girl – you are too smart and too beautiful to be dieting! Just eat! Eat food! Love food! Enjoy food!

Everybody does something different! Heck – Alicia Silverstone eats grains, competitive athletes eat sweet potatoes, Kim Kardashian eats a hot dog ;)…were only human! I think that we all just take ourselves too seriously sometimes. All that energy you are putting into what you eat or what is “right” – just think where that could take you!

There’s a book called “Live a Little!” – try that. Or Intuitive Eating maybe (although I find that’s like a diet in itself because really you shouldn’t have to think so hard…sometimes it’s okay just to eat the damn cookie whether you really want it or not).

Thanks for sharing!

Nicole @ Of Cookies & Carrots

I read hte book too and found it incredibly moving. I really LIKE the idea of intuitive eating and not being controlled but have had a very hard time putting it into practice.
I definitely think there’s room for just about anything in moderation, including probably some processed foods, though I do also think the body works better on unprocessed things and such, but I just think the following rules thing gets old!
I loved this post though! 🙂

Penny O

I’m a food obsessor and my disordered eating/dieting & overeating crappy food cycle was getting worse as my metabolism started slowing down. Luckily I happened upon the food combining method which doesn’t feel like a diet, although there are a few rules. These few small rules are leading me to healthier, more nourishing eating. I feel like I eat what I want now. I’m better able to listen to the inner cues and ignore the outer triggers. I’m overeating less!!

Megan, your blog is really helping me on my path. I’m so glad I found it. I love your recipes and your readers.

Have a great weekend all!


I love these posts, they really ring true to my heart. About 10 years ago I struggled with bulimia and that vicious cycle of binging and then starving and then binging again. Well about 4 years ago I got really sick from an infected tooth and enough was enough! I wanted to change, but how? I was a diet coke drinker/sugar addict. Bit by bit, I finally got off soda, got rid of all the white flour/sugar in my home and started learning how to bake/cook and live without it. I feel BETTER now than I have ever felt in my life! And now its easy to understand my craving cues. When you are off all of the processed stuff, and your taste buds are functioning properly you can make better decisions of what it is your wanting. I say get rid of all the processed stuff and eat whole, then eat anything and everything from that! There is no way you can feel good eating processed food/soda/ candy even in moderation.

Jennifer Polle

Great post – thanks! Portia sounds very much like she’s been studying and incorporating the principles of intuitive eating, a concept made popular with the book Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Resch. I use the same principles with my students and clients. Well worth checking out!


Thank you so much for sharing this post. This is all frigging awesome.

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