This post may contain affiliate links. Please read my disclosure and privacy policy.

I’m embarrassed to admit it, but for years I struggled with binge eating.

edible cookie dough in a food processor

When others were around me, I would eat healthy, normal-looking meals, but when I was by myself I would gorge on junk food until I felt sick. It was a heavy secret to keep, affecting not only my weight and overall health, but also my social life and relationships. (Some nights I would rather stay home and secretly eat than hang out with my family or friends.)

Today I want to share some of the steps I took to finally stop binge eating, in the hopes that it might help someone else out there who might be struggling, too.

Disclaimer: If you are feeling suicidal, severely depressed, or in need of medical attention, please see a licensed health care provider. This website is not intended to be a substitute for medical advice.

What Causes Binge Eating?

I don’t believe there is a just one answer as to what causes people start binge eating, but it seems that one common cause is having a restricted diet at some point in your life.

This could have happened when you were a child, if well-meaning parents attempted to limit your food intake to help prevent childhood obesity, or it might have happened later in life, when you attempted to diet to lose weight. (In my case, it was the latter.)

before and after of Megan Gilmore, Detoxinista

Not surprisingly, depression can also play a role in binge eating. My suffering hit its peak when I was working from home in Los Angeles, as I felt very isolated and didn’t have a lot of human interaction each day. I also had a nutritionally poor diet, which probably contributed to those feelings of depression, and that left me feeling malnourished. This combination led to more serious bouts of binge eating like you’ll see below.

What is Considered Binge Eating?

Binge eating is defined as the consumption of a large quantity of food in a short period of time. In many cases, the person binge eating feels out of control and eats WAY past their comfort level. For a person suffering from Binge Eating Disorder, there is no purging after the binge (which is what makes it different from Bulimia.)

I would imagine that almost everyone has experienced some level emotional eating, or comfort eating, at some point in his or her life, but it’s the eating far past your comfort level or feeling out of control that sets binge eating apart from simply “splurging.”

flourless vegan chocolate cake

A binge can vary from person to person, as it’s kind of up to self-interpretation. For some, they may tend to binge eat at night, after a stressful day at work or after a day of a low-calorie dieting. For others, it maybe a full day of binge eating, particularly on days leading up to starting a strict diet. One thing that most binges have in common is that the eating is done in secret, as the person is ashamed of his or her actions.

Here’s an example of what a full day of secret binge eating looked like for me:

  • Morning: I’d go to McDonald’s and order an Extra Value Meal (which included a breakfast biscuit and hash browns), then realize that I could even be more indulgent and order a second meal. I’d order two cinnamon rolls, as well, because why not. I took my massive amount of food home and devoured it all in about 15-20 minutes. After that I would feel slightly guilty, but still excited to eat more food.
  • Afternoon: I’d order a large, deep-dish pizza. While I was waiting for it to be delivered, I’d eat cookies and potato chips, and anything else that might might be off-limits to me in the near future.
  • Early Evening: This was often my last chance to eat something before someone else could get home and interrupt my secret eating, so I’d walk to the convenience store across the street and buy a pint of ice cream, or a king size candy bar, or both. I’d eat as much as I could, then I’d get rid of ALL of the evidence, taking out the trash so that no one would see my empty food wrappers.
  • Evening: I’d make myself a light salad or healthy dinner to eat in front of my family, and act as if my stomach wasn’t killing me, even though I felt miserable. I’d go to bed feeling guilty, depressed, and ashamed, with a resolution to eat “perfectly” the next day.

A binge day like this would usually occur anytime that I was planning to try a super-strict diet, like a juice fast, an all-raw diet, a candida cleanse, or a low-carb protocol (I tried it all!). The more strict my diet, the more drastic the binge would be.

Also, my binges rarely were contained to just one day. Usually I would binge-eat like that one to three times a week. If I slipped-up during a dieting day, the rest of that day would turn into a binge because the way I saw it, I had already “blown it” for the day and I might as well start fresh tomorrow.

Mentally, I remember reasoning with myself that I would have a better “before” picture to compare to later when I lost weight after my diet, since I’d be so bloated from binge-eating. (What I a great excuse to eat with reckless abandon!) The only problem was… it was really hard to stop binge-eating, and it was even harder to stick to a strict diet for very long.

On a side note, days like this one would also wreak havoc on my budget. I was too ashamed to keep these “bad” foods in my fridge, so I would buy them and discard the evidence, which is a huge waste across the board. You would think that being on an insanely-tight budget would have stopped me at the time, but it didn’t.

Binge eating, in general, doesn’t make logical sense, which is why it’s so hard to explain it to others who haven’t experienced it.

date sweetened peanut butter cookie

Stuck In A Cycle of Yo-Yo Dieting

I suffered through this cycle for years because I was always convinced that if I could just find the perfect diet, or reach a certain goal weight or clothing size, that my issues would go away. I wouldn’t stop dieting, and therefore I couldn’t stop binge eating, either.

I also felt like I was “getting away with it” because I never gained THAT much weight, despite my crazy eating habits. I definitely did gain weight, and my clothing size did fluctuate often, but I would always follow a super-strict diet for 2 to 4 weeks and lose the weight again. (Though, this did get harder to maintain overtime. Your body won’t always respond as well to the same diet over and over again.)

Then the cycle would start all over again. I was stuck in a cycle of yo-yo dieting.

mango strawberry smoothie

How I Finally Stopped Binge Eating

I’d love to say there was a “magic cure” that made things click, but it didn’t happen overnight. For me, the change was more gradual.

By taking the steps below, my binge eating sessions became shorter and less severe, and happened far less frequently. Eventually, they started to simply resemble the dietary “splurges” that normal people have. (Like having a couple cookies after family dinner, or going out for ice cream with friends.) Now, I eat like a healthy, normal person with a few splurges here and there.

The following things helped me get there:

  • I stopped dieting. This was a non-negotiable step for me. I had to stop restricting my food choices, because restriction led me to binge-eating. Every. Single. Time. No more calorie counting or thinking about macronutrients for me. In fact, I needed to make sure I was eating plenty of nourishing food so that my body didn’t feel restricted at all. When you eat enough, your cravings really do diminish naturally. (This is also why I urge people to enjoy plenty of fresh fruit— when I eat fruit, I have almost no sugar cravings.)
  • I stopped labeling foods as “good” or “bad.” This one is tricky, because I truly do believe that some foods are better and more nutritious than others. I absolutely think we should primarily focus on eating real, whole foods as much as possible, and I do think that processed foods should be minimized. However, for the sake of my mental health, I don’t feel guilty about moments when I wanted to eat french fries, pizza, or a real donut. It really is okay to eat these things every now and then, and when I don’t feel guilty about it, I go right back to eating salads, smoothies, and healthy dinners– usually appreciating how good they make me feel even more. I try to practice this mentality with my kids, too, so they don’t grow up with issues around food.
  • I dropped all of my dietary labels. Along the same lines, I also decided to stop calling myself a vegetarian, because it was not doing me any favors from a mental health perspective. I needed to be allowed to eat any food I wanted, including meat. For the most part, I still don’t like to eat meat– but every now and then I want to be able to have a cheeseburger, or slice of pepperoni pizza, or a bowl of chicken soup, without feeling guilty about it. (Had I become a vegetarian for strong ethical reasons, i don’t think this would have been as much of an issue, but I became a vegetarian primarily because I wasn’t that fond of meat.)
  • I started practicing daily self care. Have you heard the phrase, “fake it until you make it?” Even if you’re not totally happy with how your body looks or feels, you have to start acting like you LOVE it. With enough practice, you will! To get started, I made a list of things that make me feel good– like dry skin brushing, sitting in a sauna, going for a walk outdoors, or even taking a nap– and then I tried to practice one or more of those things on a daily basis. I’ve found that the more I take care of myself, the more I want to keep it up. It’s momentum building! (As an added bonus, taking a walk outside makes me feel better than eating a whole sleeve of cookies.)
  • I only eat food that I truly love. I think it’s really important to start noticing how foods make you feel and what you actually love the taste of. When I stopped dieting, I let myself eat anything and everything– including fast food and junk food. And you know what I realized? Most of that junk food appealed to me because I had made it “forbidden.” When you tell yourself you can’t have something, you make that very thing SO MUCH MORE tempting. When I stopped making certain foods forbidden, I had the opportunity to judge those foods based on their actual taste and texture. Not surprisingly, most of the packaged junk food and fast food options became totally unappealing to me, simply because the recipes I make at home really do taste better– so now I choose homemade food most of the time, because I prefer it. (Not because I feel like I have to.)

Seek Professional Counseling: I was too embarrassed (and broke) to seek professional help at the time, but I still wish I would have seen a counselor for help. I’d recommend anyone who is struggling with binge eating, or another eating disorder, to seek help as soon as possible. I think it would have saved me a lot of time and struggle to have a professional guide me through the recovery process, since really none of my friends or family could relate to what I was going through.

As an alternative, I did read a lot of books. I can’t say that one book in particular gave me an “a-ha moment,” but I do think that as a whole, they helped gradually change my mindset. Here are a few of the books I found helpful.

Can you stop binge eating AND lose weight?

I think the scariest part of this whole process was the fact that I had to stop dieting in order to stop binge eating. It’s scary to stop dieting, because I think everyone assumes that they might gain weight when they let themselves eat whatever they want. (And often the desire to lose weight is what starts this cycle in the first place.)

The truth is, you might gain a couple of pounds when you first allow yourself to eat whatever you want… though, that wasn’t the case for me.

Because I truly let myself eat whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, I was also able to stop eating those items when I was no longer enjoying them. Forbidden foods lose their appeal when you truly allow yourself to have them anytime.

vegan pumpkin donuts

For example, when I was dieting and binge eating, I could have eaten a whole sleeve or two of cookies in one day because I knew I wouldn’t be “allowed” to eat them the next day. I ate more than I needed or even wanted to, simply because they were going to be forbidden to me soon.

When I gave myself permission to eat those cookies whenever I wanted, I would only eat 2 or 3 cookies at a time and then I’d save the rest for the next time I wanted them. Eventually the box could sit in my pantry for a whole month or more. I became one of those people who “forgot” that the cookies were even there. (Which certainly never happened to me before!)

Get Rid of the “All or Nothing” Mentality

Something that I preach here on the blog, as well as in my cookbooks, is that you have to get rid of the “all or nothing” mentality if you want to have a healthy relationship with food. At the peak of my binge eating, I was either on a diet or I wasn’t– so when I wasn’t dieting, I was binge eating. There was no middle ground.

Now, I try to abide by the popular 80/20 approach, where I eat healthy 80% of the time, but I still splurge 20% of the time with no guilt whatsoever. Despite my lack of dieting, my body naturally lost the excess weight I was carrying– simply because I wasn’t binge eating anymore! I had to trust the process, and trust that my body would naturally start craving what it really needed when I simply followed my hunger signals. I eat when I’m hungry, and when I start to feel full, I stop. I can always go back for more food if I need it, so there’s no urge to stuff my face all at once.

While it’s super-embarrassing to share my personal struggles here in such a public space (Hi, Mom! Hello, coworkers!), I hope that my experience will help at least one other person who is out there struggling, too.

If you have any questions, please feel free to ask them in the comments below and I’ll do my best to answer them.




Megan Gilmore leaning on her white countertop.

Megan Gilmore

Hi, I’m Megan. A former fast food junkie turned best-selling cookbook author. I create healthy recipes made with simple ingredients to make your life easier.

Read More

You May Also LIke

Leave a Review!

I love hearing from you! Submit your question or review below. Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked*.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.


  1. I’m in tears reading this because your description of your binge eating matches exactly what I do right now, what I did today, and I hate myself for it. I always feel like I’m the o ly person who does this and there’s no way out. It’s funny… I want to eat yummy whole foods, but I always end up binging on junk that doesn’t even taste good. For some reason, I won’t allow myself the good tasting food that would probably actually satisfy me. Thank you for your words and for giving me hope that change is possible.

  2. Thank you for your honest article. I binge eat on biscuits and chocolate. I eat well balanced meals then ruin it all. I have been a ‘dieter’ for many years and I’m going to try what you did. I’ve had hypnosis and tried everything else.


  3. I really want to thank you for writing about binge eating. What you described was me EXACTLY for decades.

    I am 47 years old and very overweight due to binge eating. I remember binge eating in elementary school but was never overweight massively until after I got pregnant. I have ‘started’ diet after diet and the ‘perfect’ way to eat to finally lose weight for decades. I became massively overweight about 15 years ago due to binge eating and it has affected EVERY aspect of my life. I felt suicidal. My mom has a huge problem with food, even now in her 70’s, that greatly affected me.

    I began seeing a therapist about 6 months ago when I read an article describing binge eating disorder. I had no idea I had an eating disorder. I knew I had a massive problem with food and thus have spent the last 20 years starting Atkins or Keto etc on a Monday. I could never do it. I still wonder if I am addicted to sugar/flour. However, I know if I try to restrict these foods, I go on massive binges to eat them before I ‘start’ keto the next day.

    I have lost about 43 pounds since starting therapy the last 6 months. My therapist definitely does not have all the answers. The most helpful has been reading stories from those who recovered from binge eating like yours.

    I still need to lose another like 80 pounds and I can feel depressed and hopeless about it. It’s hard for me to not try keto so I’m not addicted to carbs, but the way I’m currently doing (small changes, incorporating healthy foods, not restricting, learning what triggers my binges, dealing with feeling empty emotionally etc) has been the only thing to actually have me lose weight and keep it off. It is very hopeless at times, but I thank you for your honesty as it truly does help people, especially those who don’t realize they have this eating disorder.

  4. I am wondering what hints you (or others) might have of what to do in the moment when you have that urge. I recognize the urge and can talk to myself but I can’t seem to resolve or allay the urge until I start eating. It’s so frustrating!

  5. I can’t tell you how much reading your story helped me this morning, after eating really ‘good’ for the past couple weeks, and then having a huge binge on sugar and junk food yesterday (I’ve been dealing with this my whole life .. just turned 58. Had bulimia from age 16-30). I’ve recently learned about ayurveda through my natural health doctor, am a vata body type, so have been eating according to that. It’s been very beneficial, but is very limited so if go off it with say a donut (like yesterday) it sends me for the rest of the day on a sugar-craving spiral. I’m going to go see my natural dr. again soon, but in the meantime your story really encouraged me that I’m not the only one with these issues (I could relate to everything you said!) and I’m just saying it’s a new day, today I’m back on track, and with God’s help and by His grace I’m going to overcome the binge-cycle and be all I can be for Him! : )
    Thank you again for being transparent and sharing your heart. As your last sentence says … you did help me, a person who is struggling! <3
    P.S. this is the first time I've left a reply on a website ; ) I began a site (blog I think it's called ; ) a couple years ago and didn't continue it, thinking of starting to post again on it.
    Blessings to you …

  6. I just came upon this post when I googled “how to stop bingeing junk food” – because I’m finally, honestly acknowledging there’s a serious problem.

    I’ve jokingly referred to myself as a ‘carboholic’ since I was in my early 20s (I’m in my early 40s now) and I’ve come to realize that’s a truer statement than I may have thought. I’ve always been a junk food junkie, since childhood.

    When I discovered the primal/paleo way of eating, I realized the disservice I had been doing myself over the years – asthma, allergies, eczema, autoimmune disease, ADHD…. I’m like a poster child for a gluten-free, sugar-free existence, right? Ugh.

    I found primal/paleo in 2010 and that started my ride. I discovered that most fruits triggered my sugar cravings, and that certain vegetables triggered a physiological response that wasn’t great. Doctors always just wanted to recommend the standard American diet – lots of lean meat and whole grins – and that’s just not what I need.

    Then I found carnivore, and was able to maintain that for about a year – it was one of the best things to ever happen to my body. My skin looked amazing, my sleep was fantastic, my energy levels were, well, LEVEL, and my asthma, allergies and autoimmune disease all but disappeared. But then my divorce happened and I slowly (then not so slowly) slid down a hill of despair, littered with Oreo cookies and Twizzler nibs. :o(

    I’m struggling, hard. No therapist has been helpful. They continually tell me how smart I am, and how I just need to do x, y, and z. The ADHD makes my impulse control almost non-existent, and my executive function leaves much to be desired.

    I keep trying to climb back onto my carnivore wagon, for a 30-day reset and within a week… I’m gnoshing on all the things, like a troll in the corner… just shoveling it in.

    Today I ate two bags of nibs, a whole row of Oreos and Taco Bell for lunch. wtf. I’m so sick of this cycle. Sorry to ramble for so long. I’m just so relieved to have found this post, and still so frustrated with myself.

    1. I love your name, ‘sunshine’ : ) I can relate to EVERYTHING you said. For me, if I eat sugar/simple carbs, it’s a downward spiral for the day of eating everything I shouldn’t, like I have no control over it. I will say eating according to ayurveda has helped me overall tremendously (typically the above is just for a day, then I’m able to get back on track). I’m going to be praying for you because I’ve found that only God can help me with this (self control issues), and when I stay close to Him, he does ; )
      Blessings . . .

  7. I have been trying to diet but every time I do I seem to make it worse I’m binge eating or just eating snacking feeling ashamed that I’m eating because I feel like I’m over eating I have gained more weight after my baby after dieting I way more now then when I was 9 months pregnant I’m ashamed and embarrassed I just want to hide from the world

    1. I didn’t journal too much, but maybe it would have helped? I found focusing on things outside of food and my body helped the most.